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straysweeper · 03-04-2009, 05:53 AM

Half an hour till midnight, I am awakened from early stages of trance/sleep by a phone call from my mom. I find out that my sister had yet another fight with her boyfriend, and while drunk she twisted or hurt her ankle enough to need to go to the ER. The reason for the call? They wanted someone to stay with her kids while she does. But wait, the father whom she is living with is there right? Yup! I'm immediately overwhelmed by the situations futility or stupidity. Just a few weeks ago, he got arrested for driving with a suspended license, and got their only car impounded. Borrowing the money, he got out but disappeared for more than 24, if not 48 hours, to get high or do what he wanted, while My sister couldn't get to and from work, or into their home which she primarily pays for.. Again she stays with him, and yet she doesn't trust him enough to leave alone with the kids, to where I or someone else has to be there? My instincts was to say no, but I felt like this would make me a bad brother, or bad person. I'm now trying to understand my reactions, corresponding conflict of values, and lastly the source of this projection.

03-04-2009, 05:53 AM	#1 (permalink)
straysweeper Senior Member Join Date: Aug 2008 Location: Oklahoma City Posts: 459	Heavy Heart, Troubled Mind Half an hour till midnight, I am awakened from early stages of trance/sleep by a phone call from my mom. I find out that my sister had yet another fight with her boyfriend, and while drunk she twisted or hurt her ankle enough to need to go to the ER. The reason for the call? They wanted someone to stay with her kids while she does. But wait, the father whom she is living with is there right? Yup! I'm immediately overwhelmed by the situations futility or stupidity. Just a few weeks ago, he got arrested for driving with a suspended license, and got their only car impounded. Borrowing the money, he got out but disappeared for more than 24, if not 48 hours, to get high or do what he wanted, while My sister couldn't get to and from work, or into their home which she primarily pays for.. Again she stays with him, and yet she doesn't trust him enough to leave alone with the kids, to where I or someone else has to be there? My instincts was to say no, but I felt like this would make me a bad brother, or bad person. I'm now trying to understand my reactions, corresponding conflict of values, and lastly the source of this projection.