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Originally Posted by magi13  how can a question answer itself? only when the thread starter finds people who are happily married, then and only then can the question be answered. ^^, think before posting hehe. :3 |
Lol. Be sure to take your own advice. A question tells you a lot of things. Every question has many assumptions built into it. If I ask you whether you enjoyed your date this week that assumes many things, including that there is a you and there is an I, that you had a date this week and that it was supposed to be enjoyable, that we are in the same week, that I'm motivated to ask you about your date for some reason, either because I care about you as a person or of your dating life. I could have other motives, too, such as maybe I want to date you and I secretly hope it went badly. Who knows. Point is, questions are rarely that simple.
The very fact of this question being asked assumes that there is doubt whether it worth getting married. Cylon points out that the question asnwers itself because, the very fact the question is being asked means that it isn't, at least according to him. Hope I got that right.
To OP: You're framing this like it's a lottery or a coin toss, which I disagree with. I think it's more like poker: there is osme luck involved but there's skill too. Pavlina wrote about this, too: "what the odds of becoming a black belt" is the article's title I think. Look up the work of John Gottman, who claims ot be able to predict whether a couple will stay together with over 90% accuracy over 7 years. He uses that knowledge to counsel couples to up their chances.