I'm curious to hear what you learned.....
I feel I have the same problem, though not with dating/boyfriends, but with trying to have other non-romantic, non-family friends. I have a hard time figuring out how to go from casual friendly conversations at events (church, soccer, volunteering, drawing sessions, etc) to actually being "friends" that call/meet up one-on-one; and then how to keep friendships sustainable- I tend to have intense friendships (mostly with men) that fizzle out and leave me confused what happened and how to do things differently. I've never had a female "best friend", so I'm not sure how to visualize it or how to expect that sort of relationship to develop (particularly when most everyone I know has an irreplacable "best friend" from high school or college that seemed to develop naturally from time together- I don't live or work with many other women, so don't see how it translates). As an introvert and someone that probably misses most social cues, I don't know whether my interest in befriending someone is not clear or if it is too pushy, whether I'm being too shy and nonconfiding or too selfinvolved and boring, whether I'm trying too much to do stereotypical "female" things like shopping, or whether I'm not making enough of an effort to connect through fashion and men etc like most women seem to do.
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