That guy sees the world through the lens of denial. Like most people. I'm sure his words will set some people into reaction here.
I will say yosarrian's title "Is everything you've ever been taught about relationships a lie?" intriguing. Yes I would have to say so. It's probably pretty simple and easy if I just let life be and go with the flow.
This one struck me, as my little dog named Flower gave me a great opening last week.
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10. Being possessive is natural. A man wants to possess a woman.
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Flower is a very tenaciously independent. She will submit to the pack leader (me) now and then and loves to explore and get into trouble. She has a habit of escaping and going into neighbor's houses or jumping the wall and seeing what else is out there unrestrained by her leash.
I gave up trying to correct her as we walk. My little male dog walks right next to me and we have a great time. She, though, is always pulling and choking herself. One day the idea came to me to just let her off the leash and see what happens. Immediately the thought came to my head that "she will never come back".
That's when I made the parallel to relationship. As a man I secretly possess my girl to ensure she'll always come back. I always feel a bit of clinging in myself.
Now, go one level deeper to my
internal masculine and feminine. My female dog is mirroring my feminine side's desire to explore, go over the top (over the wall), and explode with excitement. But I restrain the expression of my own feminine side because I fear, if I do, she'll never come back. (and feminine expression here means pretty much sitting the womb of the unknown and having all possibilities available to me; not dressing in girly clothes and wearing mascara
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Deep, deep, deep, deep, fear. Can I lose my feminine essence? No, but I can always play with the idea that I can.
The next question to ask myself is what is lying under my fear of losing my feminine that I don't want to experience?
The feminine essence and expression (in everyone) is what has been denied for so long. In me it is what's surfacing now. Can I deal with living the movement that the feminine will bring? Will I explode? Get thrown in jail? Become world famous? Become destitute... if I give her more expression in my life?
(Sorry for the tangent yossarian)