Quote:
Originally Posted by sokolata  As for just running away from someone without an explanation, I think nobody deserves this, no matter what they've done. If not having their wrongdoings explained to them, or having your personal fears or worries exposed, they deserve at least an excuse. |
"Deserving" is one of those words, like shame or blame, that just has no meaning for me.
So what if you deserve to have someone give you at least an excuse? Your deserving is not going to compel or inspire that person to give you at least an excuse. And if you expect an explanation of wrongdoing, you are really up a creek, because unless they volunteer, you're not likely to extract what you want just because you "deserve" it!
Whatever their explanation is, unless they volunteer an apology, I wouldn't expect them to admit to any "wrongdoing" if I were you. Chances are much better, I think, that they will consider that their actions were motivated by positive intention rather than wrongdoing.
You can hope that others change -- that they give you what you "deserve". Good luck with that. Or you can take on all the power in the world by allowing them the space of freedom to make their own choices, and to take on 100% responsibility for how your choices are creating your experience of reality, and your experience of your relationships. When you take 100% responsibility, you are are completely at cause in getting the results you want, regardless of the behavior of others.
You don't have to, of course. You can keep hoping you'll get what you deserve, if you choose to.