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cylon · 03-02-2009, 02:49 PM

Lol, it is like an Arms Race. ESCALATION!

I can see why the Rules are used from a female perspective, but from a male perspective, those are all signs of low interest. What's sad about the whole thing is it could be an woman with high interest, but since she masks it, a man might wrongly conclude she has low interest and move on.

I think the point was made earlier that it was good at keeping "alpha men" at bay, to make them work for it. These masculine, Apha Men do not have time for that. They aren't going to play along. They'll just move onto someone else who is giving them clear signals. Alpha Men have their pick. So it filters out the masculine men, and invites the feminine/ AFC men, who are willing and eager to jump through a bunch of hoops.

Seems to me this is all designed to get the most return for the least investment, which is totally understandable. The guy does most of the work and pays for most of the stuff, which means he is auditioning for the "provider role", and the woman can sit back and observe and control the frame of the developing relationship.

It's also been pointed out that women respond to the "bad boy", which is completely opposite of a guy who would play by the Rules. So which guy is the guy that is "doing it right"?

Both. "bad boy/jerk" is the guy the woman actually, physically, sexually responds to (healthy genes) and the provider is the guy that unknowingly raises kids who aren't his after the bad boy has moved on.

This way women get the best of both worlds, good genes from the bad boy, and a nice guy provider to help them raise the children.

Johhny Soporno has a good take on this in his free videos that were linked to earlier in the thread. I do agree a man has to be upfront about his intentions. He should let his basic interest be known, and set the tone from there.

But the degree of interest can be wisely developed. I think what's funny about this thread is it shows everyone wants to call the shots, and be the one who does the "filtering", but doesn't actually want to be the one being FILTERED.

Now to read RT's links....

03-02-2009, 02:49 PM	#165 (permalink)
cylon Family Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 6,852	Lol, it is like an Arms Race. ESCALATION! I can see why the Rules are used from a female perspective, but from a male perspective, those are all signs of low interest. What's sad about the whole thing is it could be an woman with high interest, but since she masks it, a man might wrongly conclude she has low interest and move on. I think the point was made earlier that it was good at keeping "alpha men" at bay, to make them work for it. These masculine, Apha Men do not have time for that. They aren't going to play along. They'll just move onto someone else who is giving them clear signals. Alpha Men have their pick. So it filters out the masculine men, and invites the feminine/ AFC men, who are willing and eager to jump through a bunch of hoops. Seems to me this is all designed to get the most return for the least investment, which is totally understandable. The guy does most of the work and pays for most of the stuff, which means he is auditioning for the "provider role", and the woman can sit back and observe and control the frame of the developing relationship. It's also been pointed out that women respond to the "bad boy", which is completely opposite of a guy who would play by the Rules. So which guy is the guy that is "doing it right"? Both. "bad boy/jerk" is the guy the woman actually, physically, sexually responds to (healthy genes) and the provider is the guy that unknowingly raises kids who aren't his after the bad boy has moved on. This way women get the best of both worlds, good genes from the bad boy, and a nice guy provider to help them raise the children. Johhny Soporno has a good take on this in his free videos that were linked to earlier in the thread. I do agree a man has to be upfront about his intentions. He should let his basic interest be known, and set the tone from there. But the degree of interest can be wisely developed. I think what's funny about this thread is it shows everyone wants to call the shots, and be the one who does the "filtering", but doesn't actually want to be the one being FILTERED. Now to read RT's links.... Last edited by cylon; 03-02-2009 at 02:57 PM.