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theStreetsOfLondon · 03-02-2009, 02:01 PM

I've been thinking recently about what I truly want in a relationship.

I'm single at the moment and am considering whether I want to stay single or something else.

I enjoy the freedom of being single. This can range from the free time to the freedom to have multiple sexual partners (although I often pay for this! Taboo subject I know!).

I would love to find someone special though. Someone to share nice meals with, spend fun time together, have private jokes, trust and just hand out with as a couple.

I'm a little bit scared at losing my freedom though.

Currently I do a bit of internet dating. I'm generally pretty picky about who I choose to go on a date with so I date about once a month. So three dates in the last three months all of whom I haven't been interested in seeing again. They were nice but no spark.

So I suppose I'm casting a net out for a bit of advice and to hear how other people do this.

I'm currently happy as I am - plenty of freedom, plenty of great sex - but I miss the closeness of a relationship.

Should I be dating more often? Should I be less picky? Even I don't feel a spark should I be asking women out on second dates?

03-02-2009, 02:01 PM	#1 (permalink)
theStreetsOfLondon Junior Member Join Date: Mar 2009 Posts: 2	Deciding what you want and getting it I've been thinking recently about what I truly want in a relationship. I'm single at the moment and am considering whether I want to stay single or something else. I enjoy the freedom of being single. This can range from the free time to the freedom to have multiple sexual partners (although I often pay for this! Taboo subject I know!). I would love to find someone special though. Someone to share nice meals with, spend fun time together, have private jokes, trust and just hand out with as a couple. I'm a little bit scared at losing my freedom though. Currently I do a bit of internet dating. I'm generally pretty picky about who I choose to go on a date with so I date about once a month. So three dates in the last three months all of whom I haven't been interested in seeing again. They were nice but no spark. So I suppose I'm casting a net out for a bit of advice and to hear how other people do this. I'm currently happy as I am - plenty of freedom, plenty of great sex - but I miss the closeness of a relationship. Should I be dating more often? Should I be less picky? Even I don't feel a spark should I be asking women out on second dates?