Can friendships and relationships hold you back?
My girlfriend and I have been in a relationship for the past 5 years. Since that time, her friends have all gotten married and are now, starting to have children.
We have not lived together to force ourselves to save money and buy real estate. We have talked candidly about how we would do this- both of us would get involved in real estate.
I believe that hard work and commitment will get you towards any goal. It remains to be seen if she can expend the same amount of time and resources to her career or creating wealth. Her girlfriend’s marriages and lives are financed by inheritance, parents, and trust funds.
We actually broke up after an evening we spent with this group of her friends. I got into a shouting match with her girlfriend Vicki’s husband. To her credit, she urged us to leave since I was drinking and male testosterone was running high.
After that evening, we swore not to be in the presence of this man. Neither of us cares to be around Vicki’s husband. But moving past this experience has been difficult because it always brings back memories of our fight and the source of our breakup, which is spending time with this group of people.
My girlfriend tells me how she works things out in advance when she visits her group of friends, so that Vicki’s husband isn’t around. This is done through pre-planning and leaving the minute Vicki’s husbands shows up.
However, I have doubts our dreams will ever materialize for the fact that she will go at their beck and call when they need house sitting, a shoulder to cry on, or be there for them for superficial endeavors.
I just wish that she sever her ties completely with her friends, so our lives are simpler and we can all move on and there are no excuses to what we can both achieve together.
