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Originally Posted by Angela  In my experience, using manipulative (for a win/lose result) or inauthentic tactics just doesn't work well for me, and I find The Rules (as well as some approaches that some PUA's use) to be both win/lose and inauthentic. The PUAs who have results that I would want to have are people who put aside tactics and show up authentically and highly present in their interactions -- maybe they have a few tricks up their sleeve for being what they want to see in their life, like being confident and being engaging and taking on physiology and language that feels good to self and others, but they're not shooting for Power Over. |
My perspective on it as well. In my chat with my male friend earlier today, I was telling him that -- after somebody here mentioned Mystery -- I went and did a little googling & youtubing, and found that the guy was very interesting, and that there are many valuable things he seems to understand about the general male-female dynamic, which he's figured out how to apply toward his own end.
But what my friend and I both agreed was how utterly foreign the whole PUA thing is to our experience of finding relationships...he's never done anything consciously other than to be authentic, and he's had good success with women in his life. And his circle of friends are the same. My own relationships have always launched similarly, just bein' real. But I do find the PUA thing interesting, as I'd never seen it before
What struck me about Mystery is that...he's still young, exploring his power...and eventually he may get sick, turned off even, by the women who allow themselves to be manipulated by him. Eventually, he may crave authenticity...and to find a woman who's truly in her power so he can feel what that's like.
Too much inauthenticity leads to a kind of soul sickness. The heart does long for fulfillment & bein' real...