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cylon · 03-02-2009, 05:48 AM

Zan kicks ass. I really like his message, especially about the Natural. Inspirational stuff. Thanks for the link.

The whole abusive rock-star thing is true. But it should be pointed out that they aren't necessarily attractive because they are ABUSIVE, but because the "bad boy" is just a contrast to the weak nice guys out there. Women are attracted to masculinity, not supplicating puppy dogs who try to buy affection.

The abusive guys don't have much going for them, but as far as many women are concerned, at least they aren't the spineless jelly-fish they are used to. It's like the expression "even bad pizza is still pretty good."

But a lot of those tough rock-stars fall apart and become even more spineless when in a LTR. I think a big part of the attraction is just how volatile they are, or at the very least, unpredictable.

So I think the bar has been set so low that any guy who is NOT like that, becomes more attractive. Not the best commentary on our society.

03-02-2009, 05:48 AM	#156 (permalink)
cylon Family Member Join Date: Dec 2006 Posts: 6,852	Zan kicks ass. I really like his message, especially about the Natural. Inspirational stuff. Thanks for the link. The whole abusive rock-star thing is true. But it should be pointed out that they aren't necessarily attractive because they are ABUSIVE, but because the "bad boy" is just a contrast to the weak nice guys out there. Women are attracted to masculinity, not supplicating puppy dogs who try to buy affection. The abusive guys don't have much going for them, but as far as many women are concerned, at least they aren't the spineless jelly-fish they are used to. It's like the expression "even bad pizza is still pretty good." But a lot of those tough rock-stars fall apart and become even more spineless when in a LTR. I think a big part of the attraction is just how volatile they are, or at the very least, unpredictable. So I think the bar has been set so low that any guy who is NOT like that, becomes more attractive. Not the best commentary on our society. Last edited by cylon; 03-02-2009 at 05:57 AM.