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pyrogen · 03-01-2009, 09:57 PM

Just thought I'd clarify something since there's as much misconception about The Rules and other 'chick tactics' books, as there is about PUA.

The Rules is NOT about making a man do anything he doesn't want to do. It's not about manipulating ANYTHING. It's about weeding out anyone who doesn't already have a high interest level, and who doesn't sustain the high interest level, and it's about pacing guys who are "blowtorching" (John Gray's terminology), who can quickly fall in love then just as quickly fall out. TR is NOT an active manipulation system, it's passive - we chuck anyone who isn't already displaying certain behaviors without our prompting.

TR is also a lot about "inner game" (being a Creature Unlike Any Other) and not needing someone so much we settle for crumbs/being treated poorly. We're guided a lot to get rid of nervous behaviors, and to start being happy with ourselves.

I'll address other stuff in this thread when I have time.

03-01-2009, 09:57 PM	#140 (permalink)
pyrogen Banned Join Date: Nov 2008 Location: Northern California Posts: 3,030	The Rules and other "chick tactics" Just thought I'd clarify something since there's as much misconception about The Rules and other 'chick tactics' books, as there is about PUA. The Rules is NOT about making a man do anything he doesn't want to do. It's not about manipulating ANYTHING. It's about weeding out anyone who doesn't already have a high interest level, and who doesn't sustain the high interest level, and it's about pacing guys who are "blowtorching" (John Gray's terminology), who can quickly fall in love then just as quickly fall out. TR is NOT an active manipulation system, it's passive - we chuck anyone who isn't already displaying certain behaviors without our prompting. TR is also a lot about "inner game" (being a Creature Unlike Any Other) and not needing someone so much we settle for crumbs/being treated poorly. We're guided a lot to get rid of nervous behaviors, and to start being happy with ourselves. I'll address other stuff in this thread when I have time.