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Originally Posted by Jthorn  I for one wonder however, why do we consider it normal that such things push us away? |
I would say it's because assigning the responsibility for the fulfillment of MY needs onto another person is invasive, burdensome, and crappy.
Each of us is responsible for fulfilling and satisfying our own needs, and relationship involves
volunteering to support someone in their growth. If you're
demanding or
expecting a person to support you or be responsible for your satisfaction, you're trying to suck something out of them, and why wouldn't they stay away from such vampirism?
Also, it's a lot more fun to hang out with people who notice that almost all of our "needs" are really "preferences."
