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Originally Posted by sokolata  I'm seriously thinking of becoming rude next time... |
It looks like you missed my point earlier, sokolata (nice name, by the way -- it makes me hungry).
You get more of what you focus on, and you seem to be focused on avoiding people running away from you. But your unconscious mind doesn't process negatives (
), so you get more of people running away from you. D'oh! And if you focus on becoming rude, that's what you'll get, too. Don't be surprised if your rudeness inspires rudeness in others (along with more running away).
I am inviting you to focus on what your real heart's desire, the desire that lies under your needing to be "in love" or safe from people running away. Those are stressful "needs" because you're trying to avoid something (loneliness, being single, being alone), and the avoidance keeps you tied to what you don't want. And what would being in love, or people not running away provide for you? What would you actually have, as a value? Keep asking that question about whatever comes up. When you find the value that is stress-free, you'll have distinguished your heart's desire.
Until then, your desire to get away from what you don't want has you coming across to people as needy or to be avoided. It's not the number of times you contact people, it's the emotional charge. When your emotional charge is all about getting away from what you want, it doesn't matter how many times you call, or what you do at all. And when you're going for your heart's desire, people will joyfully fall into your orbit.
You get what you focus on, so focus on what you want.