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Originally Posted by Angelwings  I m experiencing hating some close group of friends. I realized they r such bullies and a great cause of my unhappiness. |
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Originally Posted by Angelwings Why is so easy to get into a friendship/relationship and so hard to get out of it.
Right now i have issues about making new friends meeting new people coz once i allow them to be part of my life ... it is tens more difficult to get rid of them. |
I take it this is not the first time this has happened to you. What you are doing is living a pattern. You are choosing to attract these type of friends into your life. I would ask myself
"Why do I keep having these types of friends? What is it about being treated like crap feels so normal to me?"
Maybe you are used to people letting you down in all areas of your life. You could be
unconsciously choosing friends who will make you feel less than. Maybe you have a parent or close family member who always upsets you, so you look for the same familar pattern in friendships. You might be used to being screwed over and know no other way to live.
The problem rests not in your friends, but in you. You chose your friends. But the good news is that you can change your friends and change yourself. You should focus on the great things in your life and go from there. Get involved in improving yourself. Take up a skill or improve one that you already have.
When you start improving yourself, you will find better friends. Why?
Because we allow people to treat us the same way we treat ourselves. If you improve yourself, then these old friends of yours won't mean anything to you. If you feel great about YOU then others will treat you well. But if you feel less than or like a loser, then people will treat you like ♥♥♥♥♥. If you don't respect YOU, then who will? Who respects the drug addict or the drunk homeless dude on the street begging for coins? No one, because they don't even respect themselves. People respect those who treat themselves well. And if you treat yourself well, then you will treat others well
So work on improving yourself and have fun. You're great and deserve the best. Forget about these loser friends you had because you're better than that
