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Originally Posted by sokolata  Thanks for your answer 
So... you mean that he got to know me better and decided that he didn't want to be with me?... I don't know how else to interpret that.
Maybe it's worth mentioning that it was a special case here... so how about some people who knew me for several months? Also, how about some people that were just friends?... |
You are welcome. Try on: after talking for a couple of days, were you really in love? Or is it possible that you were feeling the first glimmerings of enjoying someone and delighting in the possibility of getting to know someone who is very interesting? Does that feel a little different -- a little less -- heavy?
Consider that feeling in love, or any other really loaded emotional charge, can feel overwhelming both to the person who is feeling it and also the person for whom it is felt. A person who is experiencing either of those things might respond to that overwhelm by withdrawing from it. I know I might. Being faced with someone who makes a huge leap into emotional heaviness, even if I'm also doing it myself, can make one project out all kinds of fears and expectations all over the other person, like a lab experiment gone wrong. SPLOOSH!
What do you think might be possible in your life if you had all the trust you need, trust in yourself to take your time and enjoy the process of getting to know someone, letting go of expectations and allowing yourself to feel your feelings gently and allowing them to grow at a nice, relaxed pace, meanwhile keeping your eyes and ears out to see and hear and feel how the other person is responding, and keeping a nice pace, letting go of any need to rush, enjoying the process of trusting yourself, and you have everything you need inside yourself. You are safe and supported.
How would your ideal life be like if you
totally trust yourself?