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Originally Posted by seeker5  What ways do you think? |
Well, you said before...
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Originally Posted by seeker5 I think the issue is this emotional trigger belief that I'm a loser in a number of areas, especially relationship and social situations |
But maybe I'm not understanding correctly. What do
you think is causing the pain?
Do you actually think that thought ("I'm a loser") or maybe derivatives of it ("My relationship ended, I was too clingy, therefore I'm a loser")?
Or do you just suspect that belief to be behind other thoughts ("I need this person to validate me and pay attention to me"... but the belief behind that is "or else I'm a loser")?
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Originally Posted by seeker5 Either I've been in deep pain, or my whole focus has been on this problem here and it's been intellectually challenging and I'm emotionally connecting with myself, and facing my issues now |
Could you elaborate on this a bit? In what way is your problem intellectually challenging? I wonder if you're getting into your head a bit too much when maybe you should be getting into your body... working out... cleaning... or lending a helping hand to another person...
For me, I find that working on the surface-level thoughts is enough. I'm not sure that I have layers and layers of thoughts and beliefs. Or maybe the surface-level thoughts just percolate down to form the underlying layers. But retraining my brain's thought-circuits after years of negativity is definitely a process!