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Originally Posted by missing  If anybody knows a way out, please inform me of it. I already mentioned that suicide does not work for my purposes, so scratch that. What else is there though? I mean, if it was just as simple as getting up and walking out of the proverbial pit, don't you think I would do that? What makes you think I enjoy being in it? You don't think it's unfeasible that some people get tossed into the pit and can't get out before somebody pulls up the ladder? Then again, perhaps I'm not even in the "pit" to begin with. Maybe there is no pit. Who knows. Perhaps YOU are in the pit and you don't even realize it.  |
I've been in the pit, it's not a good place.
It's not a case of whether you can or not, it's a simple choice of whether you try or not. If you don't try, you stay in the pit, forever. That's it. If you want out of the pit, even if you don't know if it's possible or not, then you just keep trying, no matter what. It can be hard, it can take ages, it can be stressful and not seem like it's worth it, and it can feel impossible. But it doesn't matter, because if you don't try, you will never get out. If you do try, you might. I would say probably, but it's life, funny things happen in life. So if you resolve to try, then at least you have a chance.
To get out of it though, it starts with small victories, and small pleasures in order to build hope. Start with what you enjoy, and just take pleasure in enjoying it, and don't worry about the guilt that's built up over time. Do something small, and take pride in it. Move forward in tiny steps and start bringing back power into your life. The pit is defined by hopelessness and despair. You can evaporate these with hope and enjoyment, but it takes time. It can feel like a huge morass of negative emotions at first, but over time the cracks will appear and the light will show. Then after you continue to do it, you will see the way out for yourself. You will create your own ladder.
The reason why I say "Why do you enjoy being in the pit?" is purely because you must be getting something out of it, otherwise you wouldn't fight so much for it.