Honey,
When you look at the magazines or catalogs and see something you like -- that stomach, that butt, that hair.... and then you feel you're lacking something, it's time for some conscious realization.
(1) I'm all-that-is, I'm everything and everyone, the outer world is a reflection of me
(2) look at the pictures or the girl that just turned your bf's head and
realize... THAT IS ME. You have to go into the feeling sense of it to really bring it home. Mentally saying it is 1/2 the deal.
On the perfection piece...
Byron Katie - Loving What Is will fix that right up. Take it from a perfectionist, when you do The Work on these things, is really changes your perspective.