Originally Posted by seeker5
Oh? Hmmmm. I'm not sure affirmations will help me, I haven't found them that helpful for other things in the past that were much lighter and I tried it a lot. However, visualization helps me tremendously and I've been doing that for me. However, for me, it's not a matter of figuring out what to generate in terms of relationships - I've been visualizing that for a while now. I want instead to generate a way of being within myself so that no matter what happens in a relationship, I'm perfectly ok. So my focus on dealing with this pain and problem is on working on the inside of me, not on generating relationships.
I guess I just always accompany my affirmations with visualizations so the two seem almost indistinguishable to me.
I hear what you're saying about the focus being on you and not the relationships, but still I would submit that a certain way of thinking about relationships is what is causing you the pain. What would happen if you just moved your attention to your goal of generating fulfilling relationships? But I guess you could just as easily move your attention to your goal of being at peace with whatever happens...
Anyway, I am glad to hear you are feeling better!