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Originally Posted by Lauxa  Hi seeker, |
Hi Lauxa
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Sending you lots of love and hugs to help you through these tough times.
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Thanks.
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Whatever else you do or don't do, remember to be gentle with yourself. This definitely includes being gentle with yourself for using TV, social isolation, etc. to numb the pain. Feeling pain is one thing but feeling bad about feeling pain is "double dukka" as Ajahn Brahm would say -- suffering about suffering. So remember acceptance and surrender and gentleness as you face your sufferings.
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Thanks for the reminder!
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Other than that, I would recommend doing some affirmations and visualizations on what you'd like to generate in the area of relationships. I've also been having good success with affirmations for better sleep, eg. "I'm slipping into a deep and peaceful sleep."
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Oh? Hmmmm. I'm not sure affirmations will help me, I haven't found them that helpful for other things in the past that were much lighter and I tried it a lot. However, visualization helps me tremendously and I've been doing that for me. However, for me, it's not a matter of figuring out what to generate in terms of relationships - I've been visualizing that for a while now. I want instead to generate a way of being within myself so that no
matter what happens in a relationship, I'm perfectly ok. So my focus on dealing with this pain and problem is on working on the inside of me, not on generating relationships.