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Old 02-26-2009, 12:43 PM   #5 (permalink)
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Hi seeker,

Sending you lots of love and hugs to help you through these tough times.

Whatever else you do or don't do, remember to be gentle with yourself. This definitely includes being gentle with yourself for using TV, social isolation, etc. to numb the pain. Feeling pain is one thing but feeling bad about feeling pain is "double dukka" as Ajahn Brahm would say -- suffering about suffering. So remember acceptance and surrender and gentleness as you face your sufferings.

Other than that, I would recommend doing some affirmations and visualizations on what you'd like to generate in the area of relationships. I've also been having good success with affirmations for better sleep, eg. "I'm slipping into a deep and peaceful sleep."
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