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Ronnock · 02-25-2009, 07:38 PM

Steve once wrote a blog about how being direct can usually (more often than not) initiate an intimate relationship better than bouncing around and playing mind games with people. But while I have experienced that directness does usually lead to this (from my perspective), I've noticed others who usually become friends first then try to make it work, or they're friends, and one doesn't feel the same way about the other, and one of them blows the lid and spills their true emotions about the other person. This has ended up in a broken friendship because one's feelings are too strong and the other just wants to be friends.

I have a question about this "directness." Do you suggest this attitude of being direct when you've already befriended the person? I've been told that it's not necessarily the best idea (and I have known others to make this mistake) to be forward about your feelings, because it could ruin the friendship.

Do y'all believe that it was just the immaturity or that particular couple of people that couldn't remain good friends because one had admitted their feelings about the other, or is it a bad idea to tell a person whom is already a friend that you want to be something more?

Thank you.

02-25-2009, 07:38 PM	#1 (permalink)
Ronnock Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 54	Directness or Not. Steve once wrote a blog about how being direct can usually (more often than not) initiate an intimate relationship better than bouncing around and playing mind games with people. But while I have experienced that directness does usually lead to this (from my perspective), I've noticed others who usually become friends first then try to make it work, or they're friends, and one doesn't feel the same way about the other, and one of them blows the lid and spills their true emotions about the other person. This has ended up in a broken friendship because one's feelings are too strong and the other just wants to be friends. I have a question about this "directness." Do you suggest this attitude of being direct when you've already befriended the person? I've been told that it's not necessarily the best idea (and I have known others to make this mistake) to be forward about your feelings, because it could ruin the friendship. Do y'all believe that it was just the immaturity or that particular couple of people that couldn't remain good friends because one had admitted their feelings about the other, or is it a bad idea to tell a person whom is already a friend that you want to be something more? Thank you.