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Originally Posted by seeker5  So this made me think - not that she may not be right about what she believes about me, but if I didn't believe in them too and those beliefs didn't bother me, then it wouldn't bother me if she believed that too. |
Exactly. What you're saying makes perfect sense, Seeker.
If someone believes about you that you have purple hair, or finds your purple hair unattractive, and you don't think purple hair is bad in any way, or you have no purple hair in the first place, then their beliefs about your purple hair wouldn't bother you, right? You'd probably just think they're weird.
But if you believe that you have purple hair, and you believe that having purple hair is ugly, and someone else also believes that you have purple hair, which is unattractive to them, then it would probably trigger your own negative beliefs about yourself and hurt you.
Sorry in case I'm being unclear. Love.