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Originally Posted by Dan.Linehan  That makes sense. Relationship / romantic stuff can definitely play with your head, bigtime. |
Yeah, and it's a great way to expose issues about self-worth, self-love, your fears, and stuff.
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So even though she might not have been thinking any of that stuff at all, insecurities you are holding onto are still coming out.
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Yup yup.
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Yep, exactly. In my experience people who are very outgoing and chipper at work usually get promoted faster for just that reason.
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Ah, good point.
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It depends if A: the beliefs are accurate
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Hmmm yeah. Well in my case though, even if the beliefs are accurate, even if she believes that, I shouldn't let it affect me and hurt me so much unconsciously you know? For example, if someone feels I'm a complete loser, yes I should make the logical, rational decision to not associate with them if I find out they truly believe that. However, I shouldn't let it affect me emotionally and have it send so much pain throughout my whole body that I can't fall asleep, you know? Yes, maybe have the pain of having to separate from that person if it's someone I'm close to, but not the pain of what it means about who I am as a person, etc. That indication means I need to address this issue of being a loser, so the possibility that someone else may think that wouldn't affect me.
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and B: these are things that you are wanting to change about yourself?
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Yup.