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Miia · 02-24-2009, 07:26 PM

Hi,
Has anyone here experienced it? It has happened to me a lot… well, actually… maybe 10 times:P It`s VERY confusing and I don`t know what to think of it… it`s not a life-death problem for me but I`d be interested in what other people think of it

When I get the Big O… I get so overwhelmed sometimes that I start crying…and I get this feeling of immense sadness…I don`t know what other name to give it. It`s not a negative feeling…confusing I know..how can something sad be not negative…I`ll try to describe it a little more…it feels like…mourning…not like mourning exactly, it isn`t mourning but the feeling is similar…it`s like acceptance and release and not fighting anything and just giving up...accepting what is…and it feels sad in a positive way. It feels tragic because it`s so intense.
I`ve talked to my friends about it, about what they feel when they orgasm…they describe it as joy, happiness, etc. sometimes I get that too…most of the times actually…but then there these incidents…
My boyfriend usually wants to continue after that…but I find it hard to do… I feel like I`ve gone through the most shocking thing in my life, like, walked through a battlefield and barely survived… and then he wants more sex:P It`s really hard for me to switch back into the mood… and usually I show him that and he understands and just holds me til its over. I don`t cry much, I`m not weeping exactly…though sometimes it`s hard to stop the tears. Afterward I feel relieved but out of place somehow…like I`ve lost myself.
It`s confusing. I love my boyfriend veryveryvery much, and he loves me, and we`re really in the zone, the mood is great, I feel wonderful, so does he…it starts to get better and better and better and then happens this. I`m a mess of mascara, tears and trembling limbs, wondering: what happened?

I used to get this odd feeling with this-kind of orgasm…it started in my stomach…it felt like stingy ball inside of my stomach that started moving up…it was almost burning…I got closer and closer to the orgasm…and then it reached my throat and I came. It was so intense that it was almost unpleasant. Lately, I haven`t felt this. I know, I sound crazy…

Does anyone understand what I`m saying or can relate to it?

02-24-2009, 07:26 PM	#1 (permalink)
Miia Senior Member Join Date: Dec 2008 Posts: 284	Crying after sex Hi, Has anyone here experienced it? It has happened to me a lot… well, actually… maybe 10 times:P It`s VERY confusing and I don`t know what to think of it… it`s not a life-death problem for me but I`d be interested in what other people think of it When I get the Big O… I get so overwhelmed sometimes that I start crying…and I get this feeling of immense sadness…I don`t know what other name to give it. It`s not a negative feeling…confusing I know..how can something sad be not negative…I`ll try to describe it a little more…it feels like…mourning…not like mourning exactly, it isn`t mourning but the feeling is similar…it`s like acceptance and release and not fighting anything and just giving up...accepting what is…and it feels sad in a positive way. It feels tragic because it`s so intense. I`ve talked to my friends about it, about what they feel when they orgasm…they describe it as joy, happiness, etc. sometimes I get that too…most of the times actually…but then there these incidents… My boyfriend usually wants to continue after that…but I find it hard to do… I feel like I`ve gone through the most shocking thing in my life, like, walked through a battlefield and barely survived… and then he wants more sex:P It`s really hard for me to switch back into the mood… and usually I show him that and he understands and just holds me til its over. I don`t cry much, I`m not weeping exactly…though sometimes it`s hard to stop the tears. Afterward I feel relieved but out of place somehow…like I`ve lost myself. It`s confusing. I love my boyfriend veryveryvery much, and he loves me, and we`re really in the zone, the mood is great, I feel wonderful, so does he…it starts to get better and better and better and then happens this. I`m a mess of mascara, tears and trembling limbs, wondering: what happened? I used to get this odd feeling with this-kind of orgasm…it started in my stomach…it felt like stingy ball inside of my stomach that started moving up…it was almost burning…I got closer and closer to the orgasm…and then it reached my throat and I came. It was so intense that it was almost unpleasant. Lately, I haven`t felt this. I know, I sound crazy… Does anyone understand what I`m saying or can relate to it?