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passionfruit · 02-24-2009, 08:20 AM

Thanks RD:

For the "analysis" of my situation and feelings. Actually, I am not sure how becoming involved romantically with 2 new people would help my situation. NRE is fun and exciting but it's also a lot of work. I am not at all trying to escape from my situation in fact I was trying to get help to figure out how to cope and to remove myself and my children from a bad situation.
I am still trying to figure out why and how I began to have these feelings for people who not are so different from me and who don't feel the same way at all. It hurts like hell and I feel humiliated and very depressed about the whole thing. Suffice it to say that there have been lots of stories told about unrequited love and so on. I am not the first person to find herself in this situation. The pain is so great and awful that I wish I were the last but I know that this is not possible.
I am trying to figure this thing out as best as I could so that I won't fall in that trap again!
I would like to protect myself and love myself for who I am no matter my shortcomings. The people for whom I have such deep feelings are in my view shallow and cold hearted because of how they've chosen to ignore me. Furthermore, to be truthful, I want to fall out of love with them because they have shown me a side of themselves that I find repulsive.
Best.

02-24-2009, 08:20 AM	#15 (permalink)
passionfruit Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Posts: 14	Not looking for emotional escape Thanks RD: For the "analysis" of my situation and feelings. Actually, I am not sure how becoming involved romantically with 2 new people would help my situation. NRE is fun and exciting but it's also a lot of work. I am not at all trying to escape from my situation in fact I was trying to get help to figure out how to cope and to remove myself and my children from a bad situation. I am still trying to figure out why and how I began to have these feelings for people who not are so different from me and who don't feel the same way at all. It hurts like hell and I feel humiliated and very depressed about the whole thing. Suffice it to say that there have been lots of stories told about unrequited love and so on. I am not the first person to find herself in this situation. The pain is so great and awful that I wish I were the last but I know that this is not possible. I am trying to figure this thing out as best as I could so that I won't fall in that trap again! I would like to protect myself and love myself for who I am no matter my shortcomings. The people for whom I have such deep feelings are in my view shallow and cold hearted because of how they've chosen to ignore me. Furthermore, to be truthful, I want to fall out of love with them because they have shown me a side of themselves that I find repulsive. Best.