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Dahlia · 02-24-2009, 04:43 AM

I think it's just a simple case of incompatible sexual chemistry.

I was in a relationship for 2 1/2yrs, and I stopped having sex with my ex 6 months in. Mainly because the sex was boring and predictable, however I enjoyed his company and was amazed how much he put up with the fact that we weren't having sex. However in the end, it just couldn't work. I wasn't attracted to him sexually.

But I've had great sex before with another boyfriend, and I miss that passionate frenzy.

My guess is that you need to find a compatible partner, not only on the romantic level but on a sexual level as well. I think your bf made it very clear to you that he doesn't want to have sex with you. Either you both try to work on getting the sex drive up, or agree that he finds sex elsewhere and still be with you, or that you both end your relationship and seek for better.

I'm not saying he doesn't love you, but when the chemistry isn't there, it's just not there.

02-24-2009, 04:43 AM	#18 (permalink)
Dahlia Junior Member Join Date: May 2008 Posts: 9	I think it's just a simple case of incompatible sexual chemistry. I was in a relationship for 2 1/2yrs, and I stopped having sex with my ex 6 months in. Mainly because the sex was boring and predictable, however I enjoyed his company and was amazed how much he put up with the fact that we weren't having sex. However in the end, it just couldn't work. I wasn't attracted to him sexually. But I've had great sex before with another boyfriend, and I miss that passionate frenzy. My guess is that you need to find a compatible partner, not only on the romantic level but on a sexual level as well. I think your bf made it very clear to you that he doesn't want to have sex with you. Either you both try to work on getting the sex drive up, or agree that he finds sex elsewhere and still be with you, or that you both end your relationship and seek for better. I'm not saying he doesn't love you, but when the chemistry isn't there, it's just not there.