[cylon]

Whatever you're thinking of doing, it is going to ruin the friendship of your bf and his friend. And when you have completely forgotten about both of these guys, their friendship will still be ruined.

I think your bf is jealous and insecure which is pretty common, which is making him less attractive to you, which is pretty common, and you are now seeking justification and permission to cheat on him (or leave him if the other guy isn't willing to be responsible for cheating) so you don't feel so bad when the inevitable happens, which is pretty common.

This would fall under the category of games. It's called "Branch Swinging". You're securing the next branch with this post, and looking for permission to hold onto that new branch tighter.

There's also the drama, the rush that comes from having two guys be interested in you at the same time, and all the posting about it and everything. It's exciting. I liked when two girls would be competing for me, I felt on top of the world, and would actually enjoy when I saw them getting catty with each other. Of course, I would never admit it. Except right now.

But now that you've lost attraction for your bf, sounds like it's over. He doesn't realize why he's pushing you away because of his neediness, and if it's not with his friend, it's gonna be with the next guy. He's done. If he was fine with you liking his friend, and was confident in himself, it probably wouldn't have developed past that.

Anyway, whatever makes you happy. Maybe this guy is better for you. Don't stay in a relationship that is not meeting your needs. There are no points in heaven for that.

But I would at least consider, the friendship that's about to be ruined between these two dudes. Then you could know you made a choice that considered the feelings of everyone involved.