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Zoomorphic · 02-23-2009, 01:17 AM

Hi, everyone.
This is my first relationship with a guy. I don't know much about dating and relationship. Need a bit of advice on this one.

I have been dating this guy for almost 2 months now. We've been casually going out. At the beginning, he paid for all the dates and now recently for the past few dates he stops paying for me. I m a bit disappointed. I dont know why. I dont expect him to pay for all the dates but i would prefer him to pay for the majority of the dates. Am I wrong to expect him to pay for me all the time?
For the past few dates when we are about to pay. He said he needs to go to the cash machine to get more money and that he has enough to pay for his meal only and searching through pockets to find it.
I don't like that in particular, when he asks me to hang out at the weekend and then didnt bring enough money. I dont know if he's doing that to avoid paying. Its not like he has no income.

I dont know what to do now. I really dont know financial dealing in a relationship. I m so embarrassed to ask my friends.
At the moment, I m starting to lose interest in him because i think that he's not very generous and that money is more important to him. Am i wrong?

Also, 2 weeks ago, on Valentine's day I was expecting romantic dinner or maybe he'll plan something nice.
He has no plans for me that day and didnt bring me roses except a box of chocolate and we stayed home. He asked me what i wanted to do on V-day when he arrived but i thought he would plan that special day for me. I was so devastated on V-day because I had never been out on V-day before and knowing that this was my first V-day and that he may be my first boyfriend even if we havent official declared so. My V-day turned was nothing special and memorable.

I dont know what to do now. Should i Dump him?
Am i wrong to have expectations??
Should i date other people instead, I do have few other guys who have been interested in me. I m afraid it may run into the same confusion and uncertainty again.

I would appreciate to get some input from men and women.
I m 23 years old and i want a successful relationship. I cant sleep and its midnight now...

02-23-2009, 01:17 AM	#1 (permalink)
Zoomorphic Member Join Date: Apr 2007 Posts: 41	Who pays for the date? Hi, everyone. This is my first relationship with a guy. I don't know much about dating and relationship. Need a bit of advice on this one. I have been dating this guy for almost 2 months now. We've been casually going out. At the beginning, he paid for all the dates and now recently for the past few dates he stops paying for me. I m a bit disappointed. I dont know why. I dont expect him to pay for all the dates but i would prefer him to pay for the majority of the dates. Am I wrong to expect him to pay for me all the time? For the past few dates when we are about to pay. He said he needs to go to the cash machine to get more money and that he has enough to pay for his meal only and searching through pockets to find it. I don't like that in particular, when he asks me to hang out at the weekend and then didnt bring enough money. I dont know if he's doing that to avoid paying. Its not like he has no income. I dont know what to do now. I really dont know financial dealing in a relationship. I m so embarrassed to ask my friends. At the moment, I m starting to lose interest in him because i think that he's not very generous and that money is more important to him. Am i wrong? Also, 2 weeks ago, on Valentine's day I was expecting romantic dinner or maybe he'll plan something nice. He has no plans for me that day and didnt bring me roses except a box of chocolate and we stayed home. He asked me what i wanted to do on V-day when he arrived but i thought he would plan that special day for me. I was so devastated on V-day because I had never been out on V-day before and knowing that this was my first V-day and that he may be my first boyfriend even if we havent official declared so. My V-day turned was nothing special and memorable. I dont know what to do now. Should i Dump him? Am i wrong to have expectations?? Should i date other people instead, I do have few other guys who have been interested in me. I m afraid it may run into the same confusion and uncertainty again. I would appreciate to get some input from men and women. I m 23 years old and i want a successful relationship. I cant sleep and its midnight now...