Thank you all for answering =D
I didn’t post here to get absolution, to justify myself, or even as a way of putting it off.
I know there are a zillion websites and blogs where you can find advice on how to break up… but the advice you find in them is just… common sense. I was looking for more insightful advice, advice that came from introspection and both good and bad experiences, which is why I posted on this forums, instead of elsewhere on the internet.
I know I have messed up: I have been putting it off for years, hoping and wanting to believe that it could be fixed. And now I’m having trouble adjusting from the pretending-everything’s-fine role I’ve made myself play to a everything’s-not-fine-and-I-want-to-break-up attitude.
The thing is that the thought of this situation going on for months is driving me crazy. As I said, it’s taken me a while to figure out breaking up is the right decision, but once I’ve come up with it I just can’t deal with picking up fights and saying back I love you fifty times a day when all I can think of is I want out.
On the other hand, I can’t just stop saying it altogether. I can’t just go tomorrow to his place (that’s where we normally see each other) and break up with him. I know that, despite all the drama, I would leave feeling liberated. But I also know that it would take him a really long time to understand it and to get past it. It wouldn’t be fair to him if I do it that way.
@RT Wolf, you are welcome. Congratulations for taking the time to analyze your relationship so you can avoid getting to this point. I’m really glad to have somehow helped you do that.
@yintherapy and Sabrielle11, I’m sorry you had to go through all that. Hopefully it all turned out for the best for you guys =).
@dwixi. I'm sorry you are going through the same... What do you mean you hope "it's not too late" for you?
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