I know you feel like the other person's got all the power and so much hangs in the balance for you to do this, so that may make you feel a bit desperate. But it's not like that. Remember, you're choosing them, too. You have something to offer that they would like, so they don't have all the power. You can convince them that you have what they want, which is helpful, but also remember to seek out what you want. Even if you feel so desperate that you'll take any job that comes across your desk, you have standards. They may be very basic ones, like, would you work next to the rotting carcass of a cow? You may think that's funny but there's people out there who have to, so you've got this place good on that (I hope). What else would you like in a work environment? Do you prefer to work alone or in groups? Do you want great coworkers? A great boss? Do you want advancement opportunities? Or a lot of money? It'd be great to have all of those things, and if you cna do it, great! I would suggest, though, that you make a hierarchy of what's important to you in a work environment. The most important thing may be money, and the next important thing a comfortable and relaxed work environment.
Finally, you're making yourself stressed out by turning two meetings into a bigger deal. What's so hard about walking to a location, sitting down with another primate and making sound vibrations? Cause of what it means. Learn to seperate your current actions from teh results you want, mentally. Seperate the actions from what the overall "meaning" is.
Even after you get this job, you may want to keep looking, if that's right for you.
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Good luck!
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