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RT Wolf · 02-22-2009, 05:12 PM

It sounds like he's turning into a bit of stalker, and that he's got a lot of issues that he needs a therapist to help him with. He seems to have trouble letting go. He may be projecting his feelings for his old fiance right onto you. In either case, I disagree with your diagnosis of being a commitment-phobe. I think he's got deeper issues than that and your confusion is evidence of that. If it was "normal" you'd be able to understand it. Get a restraining order if you feel he's getting out of hand, but you seem to have things under control in that department.

There's 3 billion or so of either sex out there and you've to be a good match for at least 10 of them. You can find someone who's a better match for you. My advice? There's a huge abundance of people. Find someone with fewer issues.

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RT Wolf Family Member Join Date: Nov 2006 Location: Toronto, Canuckland Posts: 1,737	It sounds like he's turning into a bit of stalker, and that he's got a lot of issues that he needs a therapist to help him with. He seems to have trouble letting go. He may be projecting his feelings for his old fiance right onto you. In either case, I disagree with your diagnosis of being a commitment-phobe. I think he's got deeper issues than that and your confusion is evidence of that. If it was "normal" you'd be able to understand it. Get a restraining order if you feel he's getting out of hand, but you seem to have things under control in that department. There's 3 billion or so of either sex out there and you've to be a good match for at least 10 of them. You can find someone who's a better match for you. My advice? There's a huge abundance of people. Find someone with fewer issues. Last edited by RT Wolf; 02-22-2009 at 05:14 PM.