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I really need to find a source to give me more discipline.
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Self-discipline is not something you have more or less of.
Everyone has self-discipline; some people use it more than others. You just need to decide to
use yours. Period.
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I can't focus on the task at hand.
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You
can focus on the task at hand, you’re just
not focusing on the task hand, which, I’m assuming, is studying for your finals. Why is that? Are you possibly setting yourself up for a really good excuse in case you fail?
I’m sorry if I’m not giving you the touchy-feely stuff you were looking for, but it sounds to me like you need a kick in the butt. I mean, you’re complaining that your father is calling you three times a day;
so don’t answer the phone! What – like, they don’t have caller id in Boston?!
Stop blaming everyone else for the way you’re behaving.
You have control of
you. That’s it. It’s
your situation,
your problem. Only
you can be the solution. After all, you’re 21 for God’s sake.
I would normally recommend Steve Chanlder’s 100 Ways to Motivate Yourself, but it sounds like you have read enough. You need to get to work. It’s time to pay the price for whatever it is you’ve been working for. Why are you at Harvard in the first place? What are the
benefits of doing whatever it is that you’re putting off? Focus on the results and remember; champions don’t become champions in the ring – they are merely recognized there.
Please know that I do want to help you, but if you've read that much self-help, it seems a different approach is necessary.
Good luck and I sincerely hope you come out of your funk before it's too late.