I've had a similar experience, as have many. Of course, everyone's heartbreak is a unique tragedy. To me, it's a bit of an unresolvable situation, a paradox of the heart that may not have an answer. Honestly, there may be nothing you can or should do to feel better, or to make sense of it. You have to allow yourself to be hurt, and sick, and perhaps a part of you must die for the rest of you to survive. However, in that death may be a rebirth. It can be healthy to practice letting go of your expectations for recovery, and instead be fully present for your suffering as you would for a relative or friend who is dying. Just be there, and feel openly the fullness of your pain. To be in love is to be in another world, and to be unrequited can feel like excommunication. I can only advise that you take this opportunity to listen kindly to your pain and let it express itself wholeheartedly. Be present for your own death, and make fear your friend.
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