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Originally Posted by bbarstow  Thinking about my love life, and thinking about my past I've come to realize that I'm in a very dangerous bitter sweet place. I'm open to suggestions, criticism, and ideas...
Going from 'nice-guy' to 'player' was an interesting turn of events, taking me about a year and a half to truly accomplish. I never wanted to be the 'player' but being the 'nice-guy' never worked out (emotionally or sexually), while the former at least guarantees sex.
I see myself hurting women, and I'm so desensitized to the pain that many times I don't even know I'm hurting them, and yet without that 'nice-guy' face, nothing is left but the typical male *******. I feel great remorse, but feel helpless.
I'm not scared to go meet new girls, and I know there is no such thing as perfect. I don't want to be the 'player' but if I don't play the game, how can I expect to gain anything? How do I put this... if I don't want to be in the lights, or prideful, or flash my cash... I notice that these women's eyes glaze over looking for another man.
How can a nice-guy get noticed for his true self, when women are head over heels for the players. How can one stop themselves from becoming cold, distant and bitter, when the attraction comes only by doing things that you don't want to do. |
......and this people, is one of the reasons the seduction community isn't all that great. Not only that but whats wrong if women overlook you for another guy? Nothing wrong with not getting laid every now and then.
Though to answer your main question, you have to find a happy medium and balance it out.