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rawxstasy · 02-19-2009, 09:45 PM

Shakra,

I am sorry for what you are going through. You man sounds alot like my second ex husband. Would not lift a finger. Did not want to have any sort of conversation when I trieed to explain how overburdened I felt. I was working 50 hours week at an internet company, taking 6 credits a semester at community college, doing all the cooking, all the cleaning and he sat and played solitare on the computer all day.

I have been drained of so much energy, I cant even shed a tear over this anymore

I have been there. I was actually physically sick by the time I left him. I was so drained of energy it was all I could do to get off the sofa and try to work at my part time job cause that was all I could handle at the time. It took me about a year to not feel "tired" anymore. I have been seperated from him for two years. This is what my marriage cost me:

1. Failed one of my nursing classes in part due to his placing the entire burden for his life and mine on my shoulders. ( this put me behind in nursing school 1.5 years)

2. Filed for bankruptcy as he did not look for a job for 3 years. ( I kept "hoping" he would change) We lived off the stocks I had sold from my internet job while I was in nursing school. And off most of the $30,000 in student loan money that I AM RESPONSIBLE for now.

3. Owe back taxes of $34,000 because he thought he could cheat the irs and get more refund money. He spent the refund money on himself. I'm probably going to be paying back most of this debt as he is working at Domino's pizza.

I just came from his apartment that he's lived in by himself for the past two years. I needed him to sign some of the IRS paperwork before they start garnishing our wages. I drove four hours to be there in person to have him sign because I couldn't depend on him signing and mailing the paperwork back to me. I don't think he's cleaned his apartment the entire time he's lived there. It was unbelievable. Dishes piled high, an inch of grease, dust and I don't know what else in the sink. Papers everywhere. I don't even know where he sleeps because everything - I mean EVERYTHING is covered with papers.

I thank GOD I got out when I did.

02-19-2009, 09:45 PM	#6 (permalink)
rawxstasy Senior Member Join Date: Jan 2009 Location: Madison, WI Posts: 961	Shakra, I am sorry for what you are going through. You man sounds alot like my second ex husband. Would not lift a finger. Did not want to have any sort of conversation when I trieed to explain how overburdened I felt. I was working 50 hours week at an internet company, taking 6 credits a semester at community college, doing all the cooking, all the cleaning and he sat and played solitare on the computer all day. I have been drained of so much energy, I cant even shed a tear over this anymore I have been there. I was actually physically sick by the time I left him. I was so drained of energy it was all I could do to get off the sofa and try to work at my part time job cause that was all I could handle at the time. It took me about a year to not feel "tired" anymore. I have been seperated from him for two years. This is what my marriage cost me: 1. Failed one of my nursing classes in part due to his placing the entire burden for his life and mine on my shoulders. ( this put me behind in nursing school 1.5 years) 2. Filed for bankruptcy as he did not look for a job for 3 years. ( I kept "hoping" he would change) We lived off the stocks I had sold from my internet job while I was in nursing school. And off most of the $30,000 in student loan money that I AM RESPONSIBLE for now. 3. Owe back taxes of $34,000 because he thought he could cheat the irs and get more refund money. He spent the refund money on himself. I'm probably going to be paying back most of this debt as he is working at Domino's pizza. I just came from his apartment that he's lived in by himself for the past two years. I needed him to sign some of the IRS paperwork before they start garnishing our wages. I drove four hours to be there in person to have him sign because I couldn't depend on him signing and mailing the paperwork back to me. I don't think he's cleaned his apartment the entire time he's lived there. It was unbelievable. Dishes piled high, an inch of grease, dust and I don't know what else in the sink. Papers everywhere. I don't even know where he sleeps because everything - I mean EVERYTHING is covered with papers. I thank GOD I got out when I did. Last edited by rawxstasy; 02-19-2009 at 09:58 PM.