I'll give an example from my own life. With my ex-boyfriend, I moved cross-country to live with him while he was going to grad school. He was living off of loans, and I ended up paying most of our living expenses because I was working full-time. I knew what I was getting into, and I thought that once he graduated, he'd be all fired up to get a job so we could both be breadwinners. But once he graduated, his own insecurities held him back, and he wasn't as motivated as I would've been in his shoes. He never ended up finding a job (for over a year) and he didn't even get a full-time retail job just so he could help with the bills, because he always though a "real" job was just around the corner.
I felt cheated, like he wasn't keeping up his end of the bargain. I felt like I lost a lot, and sacrificed a lot, to "invest" in him and the relationship. Was I being a martyr? Were my expectations fair?
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