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Originally Posted by yintherapy  Sometimes there's a "lag" between when the relationship is over, and the relationship is -officially- over. I'd recommend that you express your dissatisfaction. All those times you normally bite your tongue so that you don't fight, speak up. The arguments will help him see how much your relationship has degraded. There might also be little mini-breakups that lead up to the final one. That's just how it is when you're in a long term relationship, especially one that began when you were young. |
I totally agree with this line of thinking. I'm in such a similiar situation except I married this person and after 9 years and several mini- break-ups we're finally breaking up/divorcing. Its very difficult to let go when the person you're with is so attached to you and you've built a good friendship, but the romantic connection is not there. You should really tell him how you feel... drawing it out is doing yourself and the other person a disservice, the same issues will come up again and again until confronted with more force and discord. This has happened to me and I can tell you from experience your life is trying to tell you something in the form of unhappiness/unfullfillment in the relationship.