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g5etbox · 02-19-2009, 07:34 PM

A friend has asked me to put up my issues here to get some help. I think she is sick of me loading my problems onto her. The only way I can do this is in point form. I have posted here before.

1) I care for someone who has been my partner for 18 years. Our relationship became just close friends for about 12 years ago and since then she has become inflicted with mental health problems and Parkinson. So now I am her full time carer and given up work 5 years ago to care for her. We have a large age difference and she some what older than me.

2) Her son has aspergers disorder that is not diagnosed or expected by him or his partner. His family knows he has a problem but are not prepared to talk to him about it. His partner and I have attraction for the last 12 years and she goes through periods of wanting my company emotional and physically. Each time we link up and have a close relationship she panics and runs back to her partner blames me for taking advantage of her. My partner has know of my feeling for her and knows it is just me getting some external support, but wishes it was not with son’s partner.

3) I feeling upset I had to give up all my interests to care for my partner and she with her mental health problems wants me 24/7 and I find it hard to have my own space. I now suffer from depression and know my health is getting worse. My partner’s family will nothing to do with her care and support. Son will not even talk to her but daughter makes contact daily. Partner’s daughter knows of my problems and is worried.

4)I suffer from extreme ups and downs and until recently I have support from my close friend and buddy (son’s partner).

This must look very complex.

02-19-2009, 07:34 PM	#1 (permalink)
g5etbox Junior Member Join Date: Jan 2007 Posts: 12	Complex relationships A friend has asked me to put up my issues here to get some help. I think she is sick of me loading my problems onto her. The only way I can do this is in point form. I have posted here before. 1) I care for someone who has been my partner for 18 years. Our relationship became just close friends for about 12 years ago and since then she has become inflicted with mental health problems and Parkinson. So now I am her full time carer and given up work 5 years ago to care for her. We have a large age difference and she some what older than me. 2) Her son has aspergers disorder that is not diagnosed or expected by him or his partner. His family knows he has a problem but are not prepared to talk to him about it. His partner and I have attraction for the last 12 years and she goes through periods of wanting my company emotional and physically. Each time we link up and have a close relationship she panics and runs back to her partner blames me for taking advantage of her. My partner has know of my feeling for her and knows it is just me getting some external support, but wishes it was not with son’s partner. 3) I feeling upset I had to give up all my interests to care for my partner and she with her mental health problems wants me 24/7 and I find it hard to have my own space. I now suffer from depression and know my health is getting worse. My partner’s family will nothing to do with her care and support. Son will not even talk to her but daughter makes contact daily. Partner’s daughter knows of my problems and is worried. 4)I suffer from extreme ups and downs and until recently I have support from my close friend and buddy (son’s partner). This must look very complex.