Do they stay in your home when they come for a visit? Perhaps you could suggest them staying in a nearby motel or B&B and ask that you all plan some activities ahead for you all to do together and that they do some things on their own as well so you can still get done what you need to do.
They're on vacation, so it's understandable to me that if they came the distance to see you, they'd want to get as much time in as possible. They most likely aren't trying to torture you for a week, even if it feels that way!
I'd probably do The Work on why it bothers me so much and go from there.
But you can take my advice with a grain of salt...I have a long-term bf so I'm very much involved with his family, but we're not married and we all live in the same city. If they're doing something I don't want to be involved in I just don't go and my bf stands up for my right to do so as I do for him with my family functions.
PS You are not selfish for feeling this way at all, but I do think that you could minimize the anxiety and the drained feeling by taking a look at your expectations. You can freely choose how you want to interact with your in-laws, regardless of what they do.
Good luck!
|