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Susanna77 · 02-19-2009, 03:27 PM

How do you deal with your in-laws when they come to see you? Do you find that your authentic self has to be put on hold while they're over?

Mine expect to:

* be with me all day;
*talk about the daughter, the cousin, the cousin's friend, the friend's cat, etc
*talk about disease and hospitals;
*won't eat (try) local food
*not interested in any sightseeing other than retail trips;

I suggested that they take a trip somewhere; go to the beautiful beach down the road. Even other people who got to know them suggested that they do SOMETHING other than being on my back.

I don't want to fall out with them but I am fed up of feeling anxious before they come and then feeling completly drained afterwards. I feel selfish for feeling this way, because it's one week only, and I should be able to handle it.

02-19-2009, 03:27 PM	#1 (permalink)
Susanna77 Senior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 286	Tips for dealing with in-laws coming to stay (do you have any?) How do you deal with your in-laws when they come to see you? Do you find that your authentic self has to be put on hold while they're over? Mine expect to: * be with me all day; talk about the daughter, the cousin, the cousin's friend, the friend's cat, etc talk about disease and hospitals; won't eat (try) local food not interested in any sightseeing other than retail trips; I suggested that they take a trip somewhere; go to the beautiful beach down the road. Even other people who got to know them suggested that they do SOMETHING other than being on my back. I don't want to fall out with them but I am fed up of feeling anxious before they come and then feeling completly drained afterwards. I feel selfish for feeling this way, because it's one week only, and I should be able to handle it.