Just like a drug, loving feelings can be addictive. We can go through real withdrawal symptoms when a relationship ends in a way that we don't want it to. One of my relationships left me in a state of mind that I hated, and I realized that I was dependent on my ex-relationship.
When you allow yourself to get high hopes about CONTINUING the relationship, it is as if you are going right back to the drug.
The solution is to end these feelings, which will leave a void in your heart. This is natural, because you were addicted to these feelings. They kept you running. You must fill this void with something else, immediately. Trade one addiction for another if you must, but you need fulfillment in whatever way you can find.
After a while, you will be able to look back, and wonder why you felt the way that you did. Love is not rational, and once you get out of its clutches, you'll see how it distorted your thoughts.
At this point, if you decide to START OVER with this girl, that's your choice completely. But at this point, you'll be able to go into it with a calm and cool mindset.
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