Dear scott1234;
At first we have to admit that everything is (can be) temporary... From this moment on, we may be alone for the rest of our lives (for example, due to an earthquake)...
Get up scott... GET UP!!!
You are so powerful; you are the creator; and not the victim... You are the one who will straight up everything...
Woman carries the egg... They need powerful men... (pls dont regard this idea as a simple anthropological reduction; its simple, but true)...
Scott... On the other hand, you are not gonna be alone... You deserve the miraculous loves...
Prepare yourself for loneliness; however after you did that, you'll see that it's impossible... The universe will see the power within you... And your girlfriend too... And the others too...
You are the power to change everything... You don't need advice... You said you changed your habits (what a miracle already)... I can sense your power...
I can sense that you have to power to whip your girlfriend (not physically; pls remember Nietzsche...
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