It sounds to me like, he's a great person, but only if you do things his way. Talk about things he likes to talk about. He's great so long as you are the one satisfying his need. And if he happens to accidentally satisfy some of your needs in the process, great, if not, oh well.
It doesn't sound like he has behaved like he is willing to commit the time and effort to satisfy your needs, or to build the kind of relationship you want. And so far, it doesn't even sound like he wants to talk to you about what kind of relationship it is that he wants with you. But it does sound like he already has the relationship he wants with you.
So the thing is, you cannot make him do anything he doesn't want to do. And so far, his actions have spoken very loudly what it is he is willing (and not willing) to do.
The question here is:
1. are you willing to commit to this same cycle, accept that nothing may change for the hope that maybe something may change
2. or would you rather let him go with love so that you can seek out the kind of relationship that you want.
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