Hi...
I'm facing a very challenging time in my life.
I have been with my man for 10 years. Up until recently I felt he was my soulmate.
My opinion on this has changed somewhat as I I feel he does not contriubte fairly to the relationship.
We have falled on terrible financial hardship, and I feel this is due to his poor work ethic... allowing me to take on the burden of paying our bills, juggling debts, cooking and caring for our pet.
This week, I asked him to be home so that we could put an action plan together to either a) get our magic back or b) seperate for a while (as I feel he will not realise what I do for him until we are apart)..
Well... that was last night.. and rather than be there to discuss these issues, he went surfing.. Came home and went straight to bed.
I'm very confused about whether to give him a chance to say anything in his defense or to just bail.
I have been drained of so much energy, I cant even shed a tear over this anymore...
It's sad, because I love him so deeply.. but there are so many small things that have been going on that demonstrate his lack of appreciation and consideration for me as a human.. to the point that I can't even consider him my best friend anymore as a friend would not treat me in such a way.
I could rattle on about this in all the details... but I dont really see the point..I just want to move forward in a positive way, and I just am very confused about him...
I have posted other stuff about our relationship that may offer insight..
My man - The Clam
I just wish it didnt have to come to this... but I know that I cant force him to make the effort...
I really do not enjoy these dark periods in my life... I'm such a happy positive person, I'm taking it step by step.. but it still hurts a lot to know that the person you have supported financially and emotionally for all these years could not even be bothered making a tiny amount of effort.
I feel he has no consideration for me as a person, or my feelings etc..