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ssandra · 02-18-2009, 05:40 PM

Hi,

I´m from europe as well, and moved abroad to be here with my husband.

For me it was different because there was never any question about it, and we already lived together for a while in his country (2 years).

I know he loves me and I love him.

That is the thing you have to be sure of. Does he love you? Can you live with him, even if he is dominant? Can he live with you, even if you are more independent that he is familiar with? Can he live with you being the only person in the family making money for a few years?

These are difficult issues and you will face a difficult few years if you are going to do this.

So make really sure you are doing it for the right reasons. Not because you feel sorry for him, Not because you feel guilty, Not because it is the only way he can get papers.

The only reason to do this is if you love each other!!

And.. please please please, don´f fall in the trap of being abused, and don´t let anybody put their own interest before yours. If they do, they don´t really love you!!

If you would like any more information on how I did it, or european law (as far as i know) you can always sent me a pm.

if you happen to be dutch or speak dutch you can go to Stichting Buitenlandse Partner
They have a lot of information and a great forum with all kinds of information.

02-18-2009, 05:40 PM	#7 (permalink)
ssandra Banned Join Date: Oct 2008 Location: Mexico City Posts: 11,168	Hi, I´m from europe as well, and moved abroad to be here with my husband. For me it was different because there was never any question about it, and we already lived together for a while in his country (2 years). I know he loves me and I love him. That is the thing you have to be sure of. Does he love you? Can you live with him, even if he is dominant? Can he live with you, even if you are more independent that he is familiar with? Can he live with you being the only person in the family making money for a few years? These are difficult issues and you will face a difficult few years if you are going to do this. So make really sure you are doing it for the right reasons. Not because you feel sorry for him, Not because you feel guilty, Not because it is the only way he can get papers. The only reason to do this is if you love each other!! And.. please please please, don´f fall in the trap of being abused, and don´t let anybody put their own interest before yours. If they do, they don´t really love you!! If you would like any more information on how I did it, or european law (as far as i know) you can always sent me a pm. if you happen to be dutch or speak dutch you can go to Stichting Buitenlandse Partner They have a lot of information and a great forum with all kinds of information.