If you don't feel ready for a relationship, you most probably aren't. But then again, so are most people, of any age. That is why so many relationships are spoiled by jealousy, quarrels and hidden anger.
Emotional attachment is the cause of all suffering, and you don't have to be a Buddhist or a Taoist to benefit from this understanding. Being attached to a person not for who they are, but because they fulfill YOUR needs, and you fulfill theirs, is very hurtful in my opinion. Better than two people being 2 halves of a whole, is when they are two whole persons sharing each other's wholeness, not two weak and needy persons fueling each other's insecurity.
My advice is that you work on your emotional balance and control, and when ready, you will see that being open to a relationship is a matter of being healthy in mind, body and spirit. When you feel good as a person and you function correctly, when you rid yourself of emotional blockages that have accumulated through everyday stress, open will be your natural state.
Until then, why not have fun, meeting more people and getting to know them and sharing experiences without the whole drama ?
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