I empathize. This past year, I broke up with someone in a similar state. I knew the relationship was done for, but it took several months to make him understand. Until that point, I couldn't let him go. It just felt too cruel. So there was, like, this 6 month period where I kept telling him, and showing him, that I just wasn't happy. He was in denial but eventually saw that things weren't changing, and that I was truly unhappy. And at that point, he gave up, and stopped dragging things on.
Sometimes there's a "lag" between when the relationship is over, and the relationship is -officially- over. I'd recommend that you express your dissatisfaction. All those times you normally bite your tongue so that you don't fight, speak up. The arguments will help him see how much your relationship has degraded. There might also be little mini-breakups that lead up to the final one. That's just how it is when you're in a long term relationship, especially one that began when you were young.
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