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neuronomics · 02-17-2009, 11:56 PM

After my last relationship I've found that I'm no longer interested in one, and have become afraid of any emotional attachments. Not only do I not want to become attached, but mainly I don't want her to become attached. I meet attractive/interesting women all the time, and enjoy meeting new friends. But now after this relationship I've been apprehensive about taking anything a step further.

I hate that I feel this way, and hate turning down great opportunities. It has been 9 months since the breakup, and I'm wondering how much longer this will last. I'm worried because this is not normal for me. Now, I'm not interested in any of the women I meet, even though they may be attractive. I'm a nice guy so I'm not interested in leading a woman on. There are women who'd like to date and have a physical relationship, but I know that I'll just hurt them by losing interest. I've been thinking that I don't want marriage or any type of committed relationship.

Does this just go away, or will it take a REALLY special woman to make me think otherwise?

02-17-2009, 11:56 PM	#1 (permalink)
neuronomics Junior Member Join Date: Feb 2009 Posts: 2	I'm afraid of a relationship. How long will this last? After my last relationship I've found that I'm no longer interested in one, and have become afraid of any emotional attachments. Not only do I not want to become attached, but mainly I don't want her to become attached. I meet attractive/interesting women all the time, and enjoy meeting new friends. But now after this relationship I've been apprehensive about taking anything a step further. I hate that I feel this way, and hate turning down great opportunities. It has been 9 months since the breakup, and I'm wondering how much longer this will last. I'm worried because this is not normal for me. Now, I'm not interested in any of the women I meet, even though they may be attractive. I'm a nice guy so I'm not interested in leading a woman on. There are women who'd like to date and have a physical relationship, but I know that I'll just hurt them by losing interest. I've been thinking that I don't want marriage or any type of committed relationship. Does this just go away, or will it take a REALLY special woman to make me think otherwise?