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Ralph · 02-17-2009, 05:31 PM

I did some thinking. A lot of thinking in fact. This is the way I went:

I got myself into situations where I wouldn't follow through. I noticed the biggest distinction is that I made excuses for why it's OK not to do it.

Excuses are answers to questions. If I asked myself subconsciously "how can I do it" instead of "how to rationalize not doing it?" then I'd follow through. But then I thought it's quite hard to control the subconscious process of evaluation.

What makes me ask the questions I do in such situations? Why do I want to rationalize not doing it?
The answer to this is: My brain links more pain to doing it than not doing it. If I chnaged the associations with pain and pleasure in my brain, I'd automatically follow through. There's no problem following something that's pure pleasure, right?

It's not really about what brings me pain or pleasure. It's my beliefs of what will cause them. That's why a child with inaccurate beliefs will touch a hot frying pan. If I modified my beliefs about pain and pleasure involved in the activity, I'd surely follow through.

It all comes to modifying the beliefs. All seems to fit just well. Desire means linking pleasure to doing it. Fear of failure or fear of success are the beliefs that pain awaits further down that path. What do you think?

@Brutha

Looking from my point of view: I want to create a lasting positive difference in my readers' lives. How can I do it? I surely have to provide the right knowledge, philosophy, the mindset. And then I have to make sure they use that knowledge to create the change themselves. If one element of those two is lacking - my work isn't impactful.

Speaking in terms described in PDSP, I have to bring people into alignment with both truth and power. How to empower them best?

02-17-2009, 05:31 PM	#14 (permalink)
Ralph Senior Member Join Date: Oct 2007 Posts: 341	I did some thinking. A lot of thinking in fact. This is the way I went: I got myself into situations where I wouldn't follow through. I noticed the biggest distinction is that I made excuses for why it's OK not to do it. Excuses are answers to questions. If I asked myself subconsciously "how can I do it" instead of "how to rationalize not doing it?" then I'd follow through. But then I thought it's quite hard to control the subconscious process of evaluation. What makes me ask the questions I do in such situations? Why do I want to rationalize not doing it? The answer to this is: My brain links more pain to doing it than not doing it. If I chnaged the associations with pain and pleasure in my brain, I'd automatically follow through. There's no problem following something that's pure pleasure, right? It's not really about what brings me pain or pleasure. It's my beliefs of what will cause them. That's why a child with inaccurate beliefs will touch a hot frying pan. If I modified my beliefs about pain and pleasure involved in the activity, I'd surely follow through. It all comes to modifying the beliefs. All seems to fit just well. Desire means linking pleasure to doing it. Fear of failure or fear of success are the beliefs that pain awaits further down that path. What do you think? @Brutha Looking from my point of view: I want to create a lasting positive difference in my readers' lives. How can I do it? I surely have to provide the right knowledge, philosophy, the mindset. And then I have to make sure they use that knowledge to create the change themselves. If one element of those two is lacking - my work isn't impactful. Speaking in terms described in PDSP, I have to bring people into alignment with both truth and power. How to empower them best? Last edited by Ralph; 02-17-2009 at 05:44 PM.